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Hi, I don't know who needs to read this, but: You can't always change your circumstances, but you can change your attitude towards it. Sometimes a mind shift is all you need.

About 14 hours ago from Anja van der Spuy's Twitter

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30 May

Why you are wrong about Amber Heard

There are three things all humans love:

1. Weekends

2. Payday

3. Johnny Depp

So when news broke that Amber Heard had filed for divorce because of domestic violence, the Internet exploded in messages supporting… Johnny Depp.

That’s right. Johnny. Not Amber.

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I would like to take this opportunity to recall a certain Mister Oscar Pistorius’ case for you. When it first emerged that he may have shot Reeva in cold blood, most people dismissed the thought.

There’s no way that he could do that.

He is an international sports star.

He is a Paralympic.

He is a good person.

He is loved by all.

Why would he do that?

Except that he shot his girlfriend through a locked door, regardless of what he claimed happened (shooting an intruder through the door). HE. SHOT. SOMEONE. THROUGH. A. LOCKED. DOOR.

Yet he found an online following of loyal fans, Pistorians, who supported him throughout his trial. A murder trial.

Hero worship is a terrifying thing. If you look at the online conversation around Amber Heard and Johnny Depp’s divorce, you will see why.

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I am not going into the whole story, you can read about it here if you want more information.

What I would like to address is the fact that your online comments against Amber Heard is wrong, even if you believe that Johnny Depp is “innocent until proven guilty”.

I want you to think about the woman who is sitting at home, with bruises, reading your dismissive comments about Amber Heard’s abuse. I want you to think about her crippling fear for her abuser, and how many times she has tried to muster the courage to leave them/report them. How she is scared of what others will think, or if anyone would believe her.

What message do you think you’re sending to her?

Dismissing abuse is wrong, no matter what. And it is sickening to see how the media is demonising Amber.

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This is proof that we have a very long road to walk in terms of education around abuse.

 

If we can’t create a world without abuse, we should at least create one where it can be reported and taken seriously.

4 Comments
  • Jenny Coulson

    So so true. Absolutely love this point of view. Thanks for writing this, Anja.

    May 30, 2016 at 3:32 pm Reply
  • Marguerite Engelbrecht

    yes! it’s hard for me to think the dreamy johnny depp of my youth would do this. but he’s obviously been struggling with alcohol and probably drug addiction and that can make you volatile. i hardly think she (or anyone) would make something like this up, and even if that’s the case it’s not for us to automatically decide and judge. and in most cases of abuse you would never suspect the perpetrator which is why it’s so important to believe the victim.

    May 30, 2016 at 10:43 pm Reply
  • jade abbott

    I’m so happy you wrote something about this story! I’m happy to support you just because of this post!

    May 31, 2016 at 7:54 am Reply
  • cleo

    YES YES YES! So glad someone brought some sense to this ..

    May 31, 2016 at 5:58 pm Reply

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